What should I do with an invitation after the fallout?
Two years ago, I had a falling-out with someone close to me. Let’s say the responsibility for the conflict was 50/50 — both sides contributed to the situation. Because emotions were running high, things were never properly resolved, and our contact gradually faded. We stopped seeing each other.
On Instagram, I could see that this person was living their life normally without me — meeting lots of new people, partying, throwing birthday celebrations I wasn’t invited to, etc. In general, they seemed to be living life to the fullest while forgetting I even existed. Seeing that made me feel bad, so eventually I decided to unfollow them and remove them from my social circle online altogether.
After some time, I asked them to return a coat I had once lent them because it was getting cold and I had nothing to wear. They promised to give it back, but postponed meeting up several times, and in the end the coat never came back to me.
My last contact was sending them Christmas wishes, and they replied with wishes in return, but again nothing happened after that.
In the meantime, I found out that they considered the new group of friends they had met during that time to be toxic or narcissistic, but still spending time with them and make use of the advantages that come with that relationships.
Eventually, we ended up at the same Christmas party, where we barely spoke to each other. Since we live near each other and they had come by train, I offered them a ride home. They agreed, but during the whole drive we still didn’t talk — they spent the ride listening to music on headphones.
And now this person has texted me inviting me to an event they’re organizing because they’d like to show me their exhibition.
What do you think about this situation? Would you accept the invitation? I have my own thoughts, but I’m not sure if I’m seeing it clearly.