u/AUA2020

TLDR (chatgpt): Became good friends with a female classmate and enjoy talking to her, but she’s usually with her friend group in uni. I’d like to spend more time with her as a normal friend without coming off weird or romantic. Am I overthinking this and should I just let things happen naturally?

Long story:

She is a 20(?)F and I am 21M and she's always busy with her friends group. Tho we've had great chats here and there on insta and we do exchange notes alot here and there and occasionally reels which is nice. She's my classfellow in uni btw. I don't like her that way like a crush or something y'know. It's just a normal friendship with whom I genuinely wanna spend more time with cuz I don't really have many friends and she seems fun.

I do feel she is a decent friend of mine, like she's pretty much the only girl whom I call Tum etc which is new for me lol. Was in the start overthinking this friendship cuz wasn't used to girls like her giving me insta etc. she usually doesn't give boys her insta.

I can't do something like hey wanna go out or whatever cuz that can be taken the wrong way and our uni is very sharif like very few dating scenes so any approach like this could be taken the wrong way which I do not want.

We both do have an inside joke that cuz I helped her alot with notes in 2nd sem etc she owes me a KitKat and now I owe her a strawberry shake from uni cafe lol cuz she helped me recently. But neither does she mention that in uni and neither do I except once. I have mentioned it alot ainwayi for fun and teasing her and she agrees asw that someday she'll get me. And same for me.

In uni she's with her girls and I don't mind that cuz why would I. But it would be nice if I could get to spend some time with her ya know. I am not friends with her group like I am with her so there's that. Like even just a small talk it's fun. But again she with her group all the time.

What do u guys and more importantly gals think? I hope I ain't being weird or creepy. She's nice and that's it. My ideal self says to give it time and maybe someday... Basically don't force anything.

And finally I didn't know which term to use for the title so... ig woman friend? If female friend is weird?? Idk lol. Would love some advice

Asked women advice specifically cuz guys were giving me weird advice lol. Like I wanna understand their POV. Thanks for reading

TLDR (chatgpt): Became good friends with a female classmate and enjoy talking to her, but she’s usually with her friend group in uni. I’d like to spend more time with her as a normal friend without coming off weird or romantic. Am I overthinking this and should I just let things happen naturally?

Long story:

She is a 20(?)F and I am 21M and she's always busy with her friends group. Tho we've had great chats here and there on insta and we do exchange notes alot here and there and occasionally reels which is nice. She's my classfellow in uni btw. I don't like her that way like a crush or something y'know. It's just a normal friendship with whom I genuinely wanna spend more time with cuz I don't really have many friends and she seems fun.

I do feel she is a decent friend of mine, like she's pretty much the only girl whom I call Tum etc which is new for me lol. Was in the start overthinking this friendship cuz wasn't used to girls like her giving me insta etc. she usually doesn't give boys her insta.

I can't do something like hey wanna go out or whatever cuz that can be taken the wrong way and our uni is very sharif like very few dating scenes so any approach like this could be taken the wrong way which I do not want.

We both do have an inside joke that cuz I helped her alot with notes in 2nd sem etc she owes me a KitKat and now I owe her a strawberry shake from uni cafe lol cuz she helped me recently. But neither does she mention that in uni and neither do I except once. I have mentioned it alot ainwayi for fun and teasing her and she agrees asw that someday she'll get me. And same for me.

In uni she's with her girls and I don't mind that cuz why would I. But it would be nice if I could get to spend some time with her ya know. I am not friends with her group like I am with her so there's that. Like even just a small talk it's fun. But again she with her group all the time.

What do u guys and more importantly gals think? I hope I ain't being weird or creepy. She's nice and that's it. My ideal self says to give it time and maybe someday... Basically don't force anything.

And finally I didn't know which term to use for the title so... ig woman friend? If female friend is weird?? Idk lol. Would love some advice

TLDR: My friend, Z, asked the uni counselor that I visit frequently about me and how he can support me and that absolutely melted my heart. He's a rare friend literally cuz he's too busy IRL doing home chores and stuff but when he's there it's the best feeling.

Thought to do an opposite of a rant sharing here cuz what my friend did was extremely nice

So basically I have my fair share of mental health issues from anxiety to depression to loneliness to insecurity to low self esteem to moving on from a limerance (obsessive romantic infatuation with someone u barely knew). I go to the uni counselor quite regularly like every other week or 4-8 times per semester....

I once was going through a rough patch at the end of 3rd semester where I had a fight with my uni bestie... So was caught completely alone and isolated and depressed and broke down more than once. Sitting alone on uni benches thinking about life and shit. My class bullies also caught this and went soft on me. Like not bothering me anymore etc ... This semester their leader genuinely asked me how I'm doing cuz I told one of their sharif guy that I went through a rough phase at the end of 3rd sem. He was venting to me about life also... He told me that my bullies noticed me... down and out...

Anyways I vented to Z then out of desperation cuz had nobody else to talk to. Wasn't that connected with my siblings then so... He listened and offered me a hug and it was extremely extremely nice and told me I can call him whenever and whatever or msg him whenever. I did vent to him there a few times and called him once or twice after one two rough exams...

He was recently free and saw the counselor. She teaches students Psychology as a minor and taught Z's class that in the previous semester. So he went to talk to her about life etc. He's an extrovert so there's that. Baaton baaton me he asked about me. Counselor said she'll check if there's a student with that name on her list (cuz of confidentiality). So she asked me later if I'm fine with her talking about me and how to best support me and I'm completely on board with that...

Just that reminiscing on how nice Z was and that he genuinely cares for me is such a nice feeling. Recently he complimented my superhero shirts alot and said that he wanted one asw haha.

For context: Z recommended me the current uni during my gap year and is my immediate senior in the same degree I'm partaking "CS". And we have been friends since Grade 1. Just that we completely lost contact from 6th grade to 2nd year.... But he's still treating me like we never lost contact 😭😭😭 Such a friendship needs to be protected man. It's very rare to have a really good friend like this.

Thanks for reading whoever read this all. Wishing u all the best asw in life ❤️

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TLDR: My friend, Z, asked the uni counselor that I visit frequently about me and how he can support me and that absolutely melted my heart. He's a rare friend literally cuz he's too busy IRL doing home chores and stuff but when he's there it's the best feeling.

Thought to do an opposite of a rant sharing here cuz what my friend did was extremely nice

So basically I have my fair share of mental health issues from anxiety to depression to loneliness to insecurity to low self esteem to moving on from a limerance (obsessive romantic infatuation with someone u barely knew). I go to the uni counselor quite regularly like every other week or 4-8 times per semester....

I once was going through a rough patch at the end of 3rd semester where I had a fight with my uni bestie... So was caught completely alone and isolated and depressed and broke down more than once. Sitting alone on uni benches thinking about life and shit. My class bullies also caught this and went soft on me. Like not bothering me anymore etc ... This semester their leader genuinely asked me how I'm doing cuz I told one of their sharif guy that I went through a rough phase at the end of 3rd sem. He was venting to me about life also... He told me that my bullies noticed me... down and out...

Anyways I vented to Z then out of desperation cuz had nobody else to talk to. Wasn't that connected with my siblings then so... He listened and offered me a hug and it was extremely extremely nice and told me I can call him whenever and whatever or msg him whenever. I did vent to him there a few times and called him once or twice after one two rough exams...

He was recently free and saw the counselor. She teaches students Psychology as a minor and taught Z's class that in the previous semester. So he went to talk to her about life etc. He's an extrovert so there's that. Baaton baaton me he asked about me. Counselor said she'll check if there's a student with that name on her list (cuz of confidentiality). So she asked me later if I'm fine with her talking about me and how to best support me and I'm completely on board with that...

Just that reminiscing on how nice Z was and that he genuinely cares for me is such a nice feeling. Recently he complimented my superhero shirts alot and said that he wanted one asw haha.

For context: Z recommended me the current uni during my gap year and is my immediate senior in the same degree I'm partaking "CS". And we have been friends since Grade 1. Just that we completely lost contact from 6th grade to 2nd year.... But he's still treating me like we never lost contact 😭😭😭 Such a friendship needs to be protected man. It's very rare to have a really good friend like this.

Thanks for reading whoever read this all. Wishing u all the best asw in life ❤️