u/90sgardengirl

Hello all.
Firstly I really appreciate all your posts in this forum. I often read them and feel a lot less alone.
Looking for some advice on how to have difficult conversations/ disagreements with my partner who has schizoaffective disorder.
I am currently his carer (which alone is exhausting) and feel burnt out constantly. He is doing really well for the most part. But lack of sleep and stress can bring out delusions, confusing (to me) conversations etc.
Every so often we have very normal partner disagreements over things. If it’s not resolved calmly and quickly, the conversation can become very difficult very quickly. Delusions and rollercoastering through non sensical explanations for things start to come into the conversation and I find it hard to constantly be the person to have to navigate calmly and sensibly when I want to resolve a disagreement as adults, apologise and move on. But it becomes a conversation of delusions and honestly, I find it so utterly confusing sometimes some of the things he says, just do not make sense. I cannot reason with delusions and I have to be the one to end the argument and take space.
Does anyone have any tried and tested ways to navigate this with their family member? TIA

Hi everyone,

Currently in the middle of trying to work out a career path/ next move.

I am wanting to specialise into botany more, but with additional responsibilities at home find it extremely hard to progress. An ideal situation would be seconding/ assisting a botanist on habitat surveys to gain practical experience and learn from someone FISC 4+. I do not need full time work in this capacity, I would be happy to be self employed/ freelance/ working for multiple people as and when needed and of course seasonally, but my question is, is this realistic? Is there need? TIA 🌿