I (45f) have been dating my (46m) boyfriend for 4 months & it is the best, healthiest, most reciprocal relationship I have ever had. We met organically through mutual friends and from the very beginning he has been extremely clear & consistent with his intentions, prioritising spending time with me and putting a lot of effort into organising dates. He is unbelievably kind, thoughtful, caring & respectful and above and beyond that we get along great and always have so much fun together with a lot of shared interests, humour and reference points due to the shared city & social world we both grew up in and experienced as adults. He is the first person I feel like I can truly be myself with and just gets me, and he tells me that he feels the same about me.
Six weeks into our relationship (on Valentine’s Day ❤️🔥) he planned a very special weekend and told me he loved me and he wanted me to be his girlfriend. Since then things between us have gone from strength to strength - we have introduced each other to our best friends & respective mothers all of which went great and he has started spending time with my young son who truly adores him. He is a father of an (older) son himself and I can tell he is a great father.
After a recent trip away together and then some concentrated time staying together while my son was with his father our bond has strengthened even more. He tells me that he tells everyone about me and always speaks so highly of me, tells me that he feels very very lucky to be with me, calls me the love of his life and his soulmate - which he says he never believed in before. Lately we have started discussing marriage and babies, and even though we have only been together four months I believe we do compatible and in love we will absolutely go the distance. Some people might think that this is too short a period of time to truly get to know each other but I feel from the bottom of my heart that he is meant for me and that we will be together forever.
Posting this in hope of spreading the message that you can absolutely find your person later in life and also to ask others who have been through similarly “whirlwind” situations how it has worked out for them?