I have a bad habit in thinking in absolutes. Because of this, I have a hard time convincing myself that sexuality is something to celebrate in Christianity. I understand that God created sex and set the boundaries for a good reason. When you are single and Christian, sex is practically illegal. When couples celebrate their sexuality with each other, I can't help but feel envious. It's like a party that you aren't allowed to attend, or a concert that you can't go to.
Dating in today's culture feels impossible, so the argument to "just get married" doesn't work.
Sexual urges are biological and cannot be turned off naturally. Purity culture demonized sexuality to the point where young men and women can't help but hate their God given gift, and castration looks tempting.
I see people start to try to reverse this thinking, but it doesn't mean anything to me because I'm not married, and judging by the way our social standards are right now, I don't fancy my chances.
How should I go about climbing out of this sexual hopelessness?