Hi, so this is gonna be a long post because I've had issues in the past with people not understanding my situation. So I'm 16, turning seventeen in June, throughout my life I have been a victim to mental and physical abuse while living with my mom, we moved to Memphis when I was 11 and my mom started doing drugs and leaving me in crackhouses, at the age of 12 she meets what is now my adoptive dad and they break up after he realizes that she very much doesn't want to get off drugs and he can't save her. Now he takes and adopts me and we move in with his mother who from her own mouth, has said she hates me and doesn't consider me family, along with 6 other people whom live in this tiny 2 bedroom apartment. Throughout the 4 years I've lived with him he's bought me around 150$ worth of clothes (yes I counted because around the time I already had been kicked out of 3 foster homes for simple things like bad grades or my mom suddenly claiming she wants me back and I was prepared to sell whatever I had) anyhow, I end up getting enrolled in school and throughout school I had to wear the same 2 outfits to school because he didn't want to buy me any (first two were given to me by my aunt), after getting enrolled he also made a big deal about complaining about my weight and the fact I didn't know how to do my hair to the point that he made me relax it..expect i still had to do it on my own and I ended up making my hair fall out till I did a big chop, despite all of this I worked hard in school and at home, cleaning up after the men of the house because my grandma insisted it was a woman's job, making straight A's in all my classes besides math and more, towards the end of the school year i went to an event and coded a sight that allowed you to share un edited photos and videos for news, mostly with the war that was going on in Gaza in mind, I won the competition and went home feeling good, that set the stage for me to go to the national flight academy in Florida for free, and guess what? My teachers recognized that I wasn't going to get the things I needed from my dad so they raised over a thousand dollars for clothes,toiletries or anything else i needed, along with new shoes and my hair getting done. Throughout all this my dad kinda just stepped back unless it was to ask if we were going to get any of the money, and by we I mean him. He was upset when I told him that all of it went to my clothes and stuff and it sparked an argument because he called me greedy, blah blah blah, a few months after I come back his mom kicks us out and we hop house from house for 4 months until we land in a woman's house who we stay in for all of my freshman year of high-school, throughout that whole year I wore clothes from my middle school and the things I got from my trip, then he finds out she had bedbugs (he knew about the,rats, mice and overall disgusting house before hand) and we move back into my grandma's house for 3 months before we're kicked out again, then we move above my uncle's house, after moving in my dad makes it known he expects me to clean up after both me and him, I dont complain thinking I'll be fine because I wont be doing much, but throughout my whole 10th grade year I've been so busy that I fall behind on cleaning and have to wait until the weekend, we argue about it until he tells me that I have to clean up after him because im a woman, I dont say anything and just double down on cleaning up until I have a habit of staying up until 2 am to do so, despite all of this I try to treat him with respect but it becomes increasingly harder to do when all he does is call me out my name, complain about my mother, call me all kinds of sluts and whores because he doesn't believe i dont have a boyfriend then shames me for being gay when I insist I dont have one, or simply screams at me because I dont do things the way he likes them and when I try to communicate he tells me I dont have an opinion because I dont have a job (something ive been trying to get since 14, ive had interviews since 15 but I can never get the jobs without documents I need him or my mom to get) i finally got my birth certificate a few weeks ago and after having 3 panic attacks he called fake and getting put out in the rain twice and another 3 times during school weeks.
ive decided to emancipate myself but I need a job and housing to do so, im honestly thinking about hospitality hub or something but I want other options before I decide, im hard working and wont hesitate to do anything that i can to earn money.
also sorry for the messy layout I got a little upset while typing lol