Just feel lile I need to vent this out a bit. 44M
In my first marriage I was pretty much in a dead bedroom situation. When I did have sex. I had the occasional loss of erection and chalked it up to stress and performance anxeity as my sexual ego is does stem from my ability to please my partner.
After that relationship ended. I have since found a new partner, she was a virgin when I met her and there was a little bit of pain for us both which put me off my game a bit. My new wife orgasms rather easily through penetration. But after losing my erection a few times I tend to worry that im no longer hard, and I cant really feel the sensation of being hard once she gets lubed up, of course this make me lose it, and this has hurt my confidence so much that I avoid sex. Creating another dead bedroom situation.
I do use porn and its hit and miss on keeping erections while I do that too. I feel like I need to see a doctor but I dont know where to start telling someone this face to face.