u/20ishDrifter

One of the toughest things in my self improvement journey has been battling my body dysmorphia.

Clothes just look weird on me, and I feel like others are judging and laughing at me 80% of the time. I have pretty bad gyno, so that is a big insecurity and I often layer up or buy clothes to try hide and minimise the look. The times I feel good about myself I’m like a different person. I really want to flip the current state of my mindset as I think that is what will make me level up more than anything. If I can feel good 80% of the time, my quality of life will just massively improve.

Ive tried taking the advice of just thinking that people just don’t care about me enough to judge ect but some days I just cant shake that feeling. This leads to missed gym days and overall ruined routines. Honestly, as pathetic as it sounds, I just feel so trapped within my mind and my body.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you!

I just turned 21, and Ive been looking back at my life with so much disappointment.

Academically and career wise, Ive done perfectly fine. Got a good graduate job with a good ladder to work up lined up. Im on track to graduate with a 1st class degree too.

Socially however I feel the same as I did at 17.

Im still a virgin, I don’t have a drivers license, I have about 3 friends I truly trust, I speak to literally 0 girls, and Im still introverted.

I made friends at university but none I really see as people I will keep close throughout life. Thats not a bad thing, and Im content with it. I do really just wish I had a few more people in my social circle but it is what it is.

Like I said earlier, I literally speak to zero girls. In my life, Ive had a few girls as friends but we only interact once in a blue moon like for a birthday. I do really just wanna talk to more, just so at-least I can build my confidence and gain more experience.

Im genuinely scared Im gonna be stuck like this as university/ college is probably the last time I will be around so many people in general. It is probably the last time in my life I will have this much free time too. Once I begin my 9-5, I just feel like I’m going to be cooked trying any self improvement just because life will be in the way.

My “game-plan” right now is just to start taking more action and trying actively to reach each goal and have them at the forefront of my mind. I booked my driving test for June, so hopefully I pass that and thats out of the way.

If anyone has any advice, or has been in a similar situation please help me out, as Im just trying to figure out where to go from here!