The above question is something I ask myself frequently as the youngest sibling ant the only daughter of a family of four. I feel like this is the most common problem that has accused in many middle class family. I have a big brother of almost six years of difference who is 21 of age and Is currently unemployed well not entirely and is in his second year of uni.
I'm fed up. A 16 year old daughter who should have a good life should NOT be worrying abt this. He's a drug addict and I seriously dk what to do. He do marijuana, he smokes cigarettes and many more including pot and vape, and genuinely im terrified. Can I even call him my brother anymore? He has started to turn out more and more aggressive shutting himself in his room and all. He does not study and is involved in ts shady online business.
Now comes family. It's not the best I mean whose family will be amazing am I right but it's where the mom is emotionally unknowledgeable unstable mutters to herself and scolds her children. Hey I get it sometimes it's our fault as well but truly sometimes it's her own issues. Than it's the father who mostly is emotionally unavailable but I can't say much since he works hard and puts up with this family even though deep down I know he genuinely hates ts family.
We have many problems which are quite severe but I will not like to go through the at the moment . It's the kind of family which does not feel like a family but rather a group of four individual ppl, the kind were you have to be the mature one . It really is depressing. And it's even more awful when your own brother with zero patience and anger issues gets involved with something so addictive like drugs. I us3d to love this dude with all my heart not knowing he'll be the same person I'll despise. Idk what to do with my brother anymore js because of him we are all doomed. My father always tries to be the bigger person and helps and gives advice all the time. Hey ik they love their first born son more than their daughter but sometimes it's js not a good feeling.
Even his alleged best friends can't do anything he has broken his freaking legs so many times he doesn't eat food regularly mostly eats junk food and coffee THREE FCKING YEARS OF MY LIFE I HAVE TO KEEP UP WITH THIS RUINED FAMILY and it's genuinely embarrassing to talk abt stuff like this online but this is my last hope. His fights are mostly with my mother and she's not the best either. Omg the Amt of bullshit I've heard from BOTH THEIR STUPID MOUTH IS crazy
The reason I out that title is because he's aggression is starting to peak off like actually and I didn't even tell you HE LIES SUCH ACTS OF DECEPTION I SAY and sensitive af. We have thought of putting him in those improvement homes but im scared he'll be more of an addict. Never did I thought that I would see this first hand. The only time this house gets rowdy is when they are screaming at eo. Please help im done with this!