Short back story I ( 50m , bf 50f ) had a strong platonic relationship for almost 15 years being each others support for everything , she was even welcomed into almost all my family functions .
Two years ago she started to occasionally hang out with my ex wife , we live in a small town and they live relatively close to each other . At that time I told her I wasn’t really comfortable with this as she was my person to talk to and confide in when the ex had completely broken me . She said she understood but was just trying to get to know her so she had a better understanding and it wouldn’t happen again . Fast forward to last summer and they were hanging out again . Feeling extremely hurt I just cut off all contact with her and a couple other people that were in that group without saying a word . Now a year later ( like I said small town ) it’s gotten back to me that they are running there mouths about me cutting them off . I do miss her and our friendship but feel that if she valued it the same as I did she wouldn’t have hung out with my ex wife repeatedly. AITAH ?