What can I do to help?
I've been seeing this guy for a while now... We have insanely good chemistry, and have been getting more and more sexual as time has gone on. I am a very sex positive woman and have been open about how adventurous I am. He has been single for a long time due to life circumstances and hasn't had P in V sex with someone for quite a few years. In the beginning, he struggled maintaining an erection at all and said that his dick just doesn't co-operate with him... But as we've gone on and gotten closer and more comfortable with each other, he's mostly able to stay hard. He doesn't cum pretty much every time we do stuff though, I've only managed to get to that point once.
I've tried to talk to him about it and he has said it's because of how long we did foreplay, or that it's positional, but he doesn't have this issue when we, for lack of a better term, do face fucking etc. I know he watches porn often, pretty sure daily... I'm not anti-porn at all but mention it in case it is a factor that needs to be considered.
He said he does want to and it's nothing to do with me... I have wondered if it's because he knows how experienced I am, but I've tried to convey to him throughout conversations that I'm just a lover of good sex in all its forms and there's no competition. He knows I've had sex with guys with very big dicks as we've talked casually about it. His isn't huge but I think it's a great size and I am very keen to try it out haha. 😅
Every time we do try, or it gets mentioned, he instantly starts to go soft and then it's also really hard if not impossible to get him hard again even with oral or a handjob etc... So I'm wondering if it's mental.
I'm just not sure what, if anything, I can do to help. One of the times I did try to reassure him that there was no pressure but he said that made it worse 😅😅