u/-tqm

I feel like I’m going crazy over something that maybe isn’t even that deep and I need outside opinions.

I’ve been talking to this guy (20M) for about 3 months and I’m 19F. We both clearly like each other. Yesterday we went on a date and while we were together I saw an old Instagram post of his from when we were already talking, and there were SO many girls liking it and interacting with him. What bothered me more is that I had to be the one to bring it up and basically ask him to unfollow girls that were obviously trying to get his attention. He did it and reassured me, but it still made me feel insecure and honestly like I’m just another option or backup.

Then today we had to cancel a special date we planned because of school stuff, and even though he still tried making plans for Saturday and wanted to come see me at work, I just got upset instead of appreciating it. I kept thinking “what’s the point now?” because it didn’t feel the same anymore.

Now I feel emotionally exhausted because I’ve been sad over him for 2 days straight and I’m starting to feel clingy, dramatic, insecure, and honestly annoying. I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if I’m actually feeling something valid. I also feel bad because I’m scared I’m emotionally draining him.

Has anyone else felt like this when they actually started liking someone? Like why do I suddenly feel so emotionally attached and sensitive over everything

To further add onto this, this guy has genuinely never made me feel like he’s cheating on me or talking to other girls behind my back. He’s honestly the type of guy I always wanted and he treats me really well, which is why I feel even more confused about why I’m acting like this. It’s like these feelings suddenly started hitting me out of nowhere and now I don’t know how to handle them or myself.