I feel too old to post something like this and can’t believe it still upsets me the way it has.
I learnt this week on two different occasions that my bf prefers large breasts, which i dont have. They were clumsy statements and part of normal convo, and not intended to hurt me, but it has.
The larger context is he is a kind man who shows love through gesture and not words. I recently asked him to express his value of me through words as this is how i most easily and naturally receive love, and he has made the most beautiful effort to do this. I also try my best to be a loving gf and i think he feels and enjoys how much i love and adore him.
We are both insanely busy and under an unhealthy amount of stress. He has recently started staying at mine for the first time and it was great until my insecurities started surfacing 6 weeks in. I am beginning to feel like a consolation prize and we usu have a very lively and active intimate life but i definitely feel less comfortable in my own skin since learning this and dont feel comfortable naked right now.
Does anyone have words of wisdom dealing with this sort of thing?
Tl;dr my bf prefers a different body type to me and it has largely impacted my general confidence and desire to be intimate w him
EDIT: adding context
It came up in conversation (1) about friends bullying each other about breast implants and (2) about a male friend of mine dating a 30 yr old woman who has a teen body (friend feels worried people might assume a huge age gap). Both times my bf raised small boob size as though it were a negative. When i asked him about it he said he wasnt talking about me. But when i asked him his preference he didnt really deny. He later said of course he finds me attractive, and in another context said “you dont have small boobs” (i absolutely do).