u/-Jack-Just-Jack

For context
My baby is 9 months old as of 4/29/2026 and he looks exactly like me when i was a baby. The father and his family have not been involved up to this point because his father has denied that he is his and hasn’t made the time to define paternity through DNA testing. As much as being pregnant for the first time and doing that alone was already stressful, throughout my sons 9 months it really bothers me when someone will look at me and look at my son then say what we do or don’t have in common. What really pissed me off was when the other day my own father —( which we have a difficult relationship comprised of me growing up with my mom while him being overseas all the time in the military)— had the nerve to say my son doesn’t resemble me because he doesn’t have dimples!! Mind you, I only have one dimple AND my son DOES have a dimple on one cheek just on the opposite cheek of me. Idk if this will resonate with anyone else but idk where else to express these emotions during PP with my first child while having an absent father and growing up with an absent father. I’m venting and also seeking any advice on how to deal with people asking questions like “ who’s the daddy” and “where are they and what do they look like” my son is sooooo adorable and having the constant reminder that his father is choosing to deny him makes it really hard when people ask me or inquire about my sons facial characteristics 😔