That's all I wanted to say really.
I always thought they said something like "dharma dharma dharma", but genius just has them as some kind of "da-bum buh-dum" type thing. idk
My (25M) grandma is 79 and has been living with vascular dementia for almost 10 years. She has lived alone but me and my parents live right around the corner (literally), and for a few years now she has had carers go to her house multiple times per day, every day. This past year has been especially hard for my family and I, particularly my Mum (who is my grandmas daughter). In the past year especially, my grandma's confusion and sundowning has increased massively, her ability to do things has significantly gone down - her task sequencing, dressing herself, using the shower and bathroom, etc. - to the point where in addition to every mealtime (breakfast lunch dinner) being with either a carer or one of us, we would end up visiting her every day between those times as she would get upset or scared or go wandering outside, sometimes not fully dressed. There's many more things that effect her and us all daily that i can't bring to mind as its so often now. Caring for her has become the top priority for me and my family and has taken over our lives these past couple years. I've been able to help a lot due to being unemployed (job market struggles is a separate conversation), but I finally got a job and will be starting very soon. My parents made the decision to put her in a care home (partly due to me being around less to help, and partly due to them reaching a breaking point and my grandma genuinely reaching a new level of needed care for her safety), and she is actually very excited to move in there - she is a social person and often gets very upset and expresses her loneliness to us. its a care home she knows as we have taken her to coffee mornings there for a while now. She thinks that she's going to be working there like as a job, but we keep reminding her that she'll just be living there.
The thing I'm hung up on is that my parents and I feel a genuine sense of relief that she will be living in a care home, and a lot of the stress, worry, and time that we have committed to caring for her will likely diminish, but I can't help feel bad and guilty that I feel relieved at not needing to care for my grandma on a daily basis anymore. It makes me feel like a bad person. shouldn't I always be ready and willing to help her with her needs?
Has anyone else dealt with these feelings? what can I do? am I doing anything wrong?
I absolutely loved it. New York City, Cold Turkey, and Instant Karma were the highlights for me. anyone else go see it?