r/TransVeteranPipeline

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I know this is a question that nearly everybody else has already had to answer., I just don't know how you go about it. I guess I'd hoped that somehow remaining in place and keeping all of my life this same except for how I looked could possibly work.

For a long time I did, but I guess we all have our point where something snaps and I may have hit that point today, The point where I'm so frustrated from working with my family, that I can't see it ever getting any better. It's not necessarily trans related, just several decades of built up frustration and resentment, and the realization that I'm not really sure this is what I want to do. Some of. It's the drought and watching everything burn up with little. Hope it's going to get better anytime in the next several months, a lot of it has to do with the complexities of working with family and the resentments that never really go away. Hasn't been the first time I've thought about leaving., but I don't really know what I would do.

I'm 45, I have a high school education, I spent most of my life either in the military or working on the farm. I can operate equipment., kind of mechanic, generally prefer to be outside and working by myself. Farming was good for that. Most of my skill set is in areas that generally have a fairly poor opinion, people who are transgender. If anybody would be willing to share their stories about how they navigated similar situations, I would really appreciate it. I'm pretty lost right now..

Hey all!

So, around this time last year I medically separated out of the Marine Corps. While I was in, I did a lot of exploration with my identity and came to the VERY private realization that I identify as a woman. Only my closest friends OUTSIDE of the military knew, and they helped me grow to be a lot more comfortable with who I wanted to be. Flash forward to now, and I just recently attended my first VA appointment. The first session was essentially just a "hey, how are you doing, what are your goals?" sort of thing as I expected. But being out of the military and able to truly be myself, I've decided that I want to lay it all out on the table with my mental health provider and get all of the support I can get from them.

I noticed that the current administration has put a lot of limits on what the VA is able to medically provide to transgender veterans, but I haven't been able to find a clear-cut answer on what mental and physical health treatments are available. Does anyone have any experience working with them since March of last year, and, if so, what should I expect when I meet with my provider next?

Hey all, I'm National Guard, started transitioning February 2025, (started HRT in Aug) about 2 weeks before the executive order banning us because fuck me right? Anyway my contract is up December this year and I knew transition is a pretty slow process so I figured I'd run the contract out, maybe my hairline can recover a bit before I start growing it out, and wring out school benefits while I can. (Bachelor's is done this December as well, woot)

The issue is that it's getting harder and harder to take. A long drill in an open barracks was giving me massive anxiety about my chest being exposed, having to dodge everyone asking why I'm getting out at 12 years (especially because I was deadset on doing 20 before, and plenty knew that), and even feeling distance in conversation with my fellow service members (you really don't realize how often gender comes up in conversation until they start using the wrong one. Tiny knives in every other sentence.)

Everyday I feel more and more like a vampire that wants to step into the light. So for those of you who faced discharge as part of the policy update, or have close experience with the process, what does it look like? If I decide to go this route, what's the best way to do it? What kind of discharge is it? Anyone want to try to convince me to stay?

My cost benefit analysis is something along the lines of Cost: 6 drills worth of pay + $3000 in tuition assistance vs Benefit: The elimination to the final barrier to my social transition.

Anecdotes, resources, and commiseration welcome.

I’m on 2mg E and Progesterone now, no blockers bc I want to retain downstairs function.

Originally I wanted to embody a better integration of male and female, but it’s been challenging and frustrating to keep showing up as male, and I’m wondering if doubling my dose would help me feel more at home as a transfemme person and less concerned about showing up male.

Anyone have experience with this?