AITA for being friendly with my ex
I (25f) have a daughter (1) with my ex fiance (28m). We broke up officially November last year (2025) after I found out he’d cheated in 2024.
I had tried multiple avenues to build back trust and none of them made a difference and only caused more fighting.
I have since gotten in a relationship and we’re living together with my daughter. I’ve arranged for my ex to spend Wednesday afternoons with my daughter and I to try to show her that we’re still a happy family. I don’t want her to feel she has to pick sides as she grows up.
Problem is, my ex is very back and forth. Sometimes he’s happy, sometimes he’s angry and lashes out by saying harsh things towards myself and new boyfriend. He never says anything in front of our daughter but my boyfriend has said he’s unhappy with how nice I am toward my ex especially after the things he’s said and done.
He said he “knows why” and that it’s for my daughter’s sake (which is true) but I can’t help but feel like I’m in an impossible position. My boyfriend is unhappy and I can’t fix that without sacrificing the happy family facade I’m trying to keep up for my daughter. I already know which way I’m leaning with this. I won’t sacrifice my daughter’s happiness for anything. But does that make me TAH?